Are you the farmer?

We started very early yesterday morning. Hugo, our friend Bryce towing the trailer with his truck, me and Daisy’s Bobby on his final trip. I always say thank you to an animal when I raise it for food, even the chickens get a thank you as they are carefully packed for their journey.  We said Goodbye and Thank You to the Bobby in the pouring rain.

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Here is a funny story – well not so funny but you will laugh with me a little I think.

I had called the little local abbatoir a few days ago to confirm The Bobbys arrival – we are trying a new facility that is quite close by so they did not know me.

“What’s the name of the farmer?,  said the girl on the phone to confirm my booking.

I told her my name.

“Good morning, Cecilia”  she said, I could hear her smile into the phone.

She hesitated then she said “So, what is the name of the farmer?”

I told her my name again and added.  “I am the farmer.”

“You are the farmer?” she said, her voice lifting. “But you are a –  I mean. You do the farming? You raise the cows.” Emphasis on the You each time.

“Yes.” I said wearily “and the pigs and the chickens.”

“Well,” she said ” I didn’t know that .. I mean .. We don’t see many women farmers ’round here. And your husband -does he farm as well?.”

I was a little aghast at this question. Was this a trick question? An  assumption that no lady farmer would be without a husband farmer. Did there have to be a big strong man farmer behind every woman farmer?

“No. He does not farm. He works off the property.” I said. “When he is home and I need something heavy lifted, I ask him to lift it then I send him back to the kitchen.”

There was a pause.

“Will YOU be bringing the steer in?” she said. Her mouth open I could hear the spaces.

“Yes.”

“Oh” she laughed nerously. “Well.. ” she said “I would love to meet you.”  I think she thinks I have a hood and a cape and some kind of gold whip.

Poor thing was trying to be nice but was genuinely confused about a Woman raising animals for food. Wild Women, like you and me, are a curious mixture of gentle and cooly pragmatic.  I think we are all wild. Just that some are more obviously wild than others. It just never occurs to me that a woman canNOT do whatever she decides to do. (Within reason of course – especially when one is feeling reasonable). storms

I work on my little farm with my helpers, oblivious to the world, completely forgetting that there are many people in this area who simply do not believe that women can be farmers, real farmers who grow food. And worse I am a foreigner and even worse than that I grew up ON A BEACH. Anyone who has a wee bit of land can do what I do. I am not playing. This is my business. This is not a zoo. It is my job. I make little to no money but a lot of food, I Save a huge amount of money and even more importantly we eat clean proteins. It is old fashioned.  I can trace my food straight to my fields and gardens.

Any woman can do this. Any man can do this. Any family can. All you need is a little land or a large back yard – but goodness -This was another Woman  who was shocked at a Woman being the boss of a farm.

I was very tempted to take this steer to the slaughter house in high heels and a short skirt, but one needs to climb up into the trailer to move the animal off and into the chute. And cows have very big feet. And it was a sloppy muddy chilly rain yesterday, so it was ripped farm trousers and gumboots (with a little mascara just for fun!) .

I have to say: the men who were there to receive the cow into a very clean and well run, tiny facility were very respectful and allowed me to call the shots. And when a pin needed to be pulled and a gate opened they shouted to me to do it (because I was right beside it) just like they would shout to a man. (The Bobby was a little too anxious to get into the building once he had navigated the chute and so I was literally stalling his forward motion with my hip as I opened an unfamiliar pen gate. Probably best not to try that in heels! )

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Anyway I laughed – a little bit.

Thank you so much for all your fantastic cookie recipes yesterday. I am going to rename yesterdays post A Collection of Fellowship Chocolate Chip Cookies!  I will go back and do that right now. Often the best half of the farmy blog posts in the Lounge of Comments! Magnifique!

So I looked at all your recipes, put my thinking cap on and created one new recipe from all the ideas. They were pronounced delicious and are, of course, all GONE!chocolate chip cookies

Here is the Fellowship Chocolate Chip Cookie

  • 2 sticks (1/2 pound or  200g) soft (in our case Home-made) butter
  • 1 level cup brown sugar
  • 1/2 cup white sugar
  • 2 small eggs (we have some lovely pullets eggs at the moment)
  • 2 cups flour
  • 1 teaspoon cornstarch
  • 1/2 cup oatmeal
  • 1 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/4 cup of very strong coffee
  • Roughly chopped up 8 oz bar of bitter chocolate (chocolate chunks – not chocolate chips – they add an entirely new dimension to the taste).

Mix in the usual sequence, add a little more flour if you need to, spoon in balls onto a cookie sheet, flatten a little with fingers, cook at 375 for about 12 minutes (maybe less maybe more I did not really time them!).

Did you know that in New Zealand we call cookies – biscuits. Biscuits in America are something completely different.

I hope you have a lovely day. We had more wonderful storms and cloud formations yesterday.

Don’t you just love it out here!

Lots of love

cecilia

 

79 responses to “Are you the farmer?”

  1. Oh my, this really hit home! Before I met and married ‘my John’, I lived on this 38 acres by myself for 10 years and for 10 years before that on a smaller 5 acre place. After I married, one of John’s friends asked in an amazed tone of voice if I ‘took care’ of all this property by myself. I did not take offense because there was an admiring tone to his question. Granted, I had a dear nephew who occasionally helped and my dad was good about coming and lending a hand but the majority of the fence building and horse care (including stitching up gashes and giving shots), all of the mowing, all of the snow plowing, all of the wood splitting (by hand) was done by little ol’ me along with my full time job! I have a step daughter who regularly introduces me as her step mom who built her own deck. I have 8 nieces and nephews I’m very close to, I was always looked at as the ‘way cool’ aunt who was game for anything and now my 18 great nieces and nephews feel the same. Sadly though, I often feel out of place in a gathering of women, I’ve never had children of my own – never had any desire to – in fact if I hadn’t met John I would have happily ridden into the sunset as a spinster! I also spent my whole working life in a construction related field so dealt almost exclusively with men. I often find I have little in common with other women as I find most ‘wifely’ chores (ie cooking and cleaning) desperately boring. Yes, Kate, I ran into a neighbor once who only knew me in my ‘farm persona’, I was coming from a business meeting and in a shocked voice he told me I really looked nice! Made me laugh. My John is 10 years older than I, his deceased wife was his age and a product of the 50’s so he has had a steep learning curve as to what is and is NOT ‘women’s work’. He told me once he never had to put his laundered clothes away, I told him he was a smart guy, he’d figure it out. After 17 years he has. And yes, with the help of modern chemicals I am STILL a blonde and I put on my mascara EVERY DAY. Just because.

  2. The things that others find surprising, surprise me. People ask me for recipes of the leftovers I eat at work. “Sorry, I have no idea. My husband does the cooking and rarely uses a recipe.” Or people ask him about the lawn and the garden. “I’m not sure, you’d have to ask my wife.” We follow what works for us. Sometimes that follows standard gender expectations, but often not. I’m the sports fan in the house. He remembers people’s preferences and is great at gift giving.
    It’s prevalent enough that it’s no longer shocking, but it is still more than a little sad, that it simply does not occur to so many to truly think about what they want, what they like, and what suits them as individuals. Instead, so many seem to do “as a good _______ should.”

  3. I remember the slogan we feminists had in the 70s: Girls can do anything’. 40 years on, the message is still working its way through to forgotten corners of the world.

  4. It makes me a bit sad, reading your story. This kind of disbelief, even if you tell them, what forces you repeat, to prove what you said, to explain yourself, to justify your being. Oh, it’s sad. All just because you are a woman. Oh, it makes me upset. It’s so deep in our people, in our society that a woman is – nothing, just nothing. Other than maybe she has a man behind her.
    Oh my, with what do you have to deal with…. You are tough, you are strong. You did not get annoyed about that, did you? But it moved you a lot, that’s what I feel through your lines. What a crazy world we have to live in…
    Thanks a lot for sharing your self-created recipe (out of the Fellowship’s input) for your heavenly looking cookies!

  5. Well, no, Celi, not every woman can do what you do. Looking after my tomatoes this summer has totally fagged me out and I am looking forward to a winter when I will not have to garden or put up food for the winter. You are an unusually strong, smart and capable woman. They won’t be questioning you anymore at the abattoir — in fact, they are probably telling stories about you right now…

  6. Stunning photos! You sure surprised that young lady, didn’t you? I thought surely she must have heard of you or your blog.

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