When I was a very young mother (and I was very young indeed.. I married ridiculously young to a perfectly nice boy ) My mother said to me.. OK, you have proved you are a really good housekeeper, now you have a baby – so just be a Mum. She was not a Saint, she was just a Mum like the rest of us but her advice rings through the decades since her loss. One should not lose sight of our Great Work of the moment.
An old, old man sat on a bench inside a London supermarket, (what is the name of that place – on Holloway Road – Mad just down the road from you?.. not Marks and Spencers – Waitrose – that was it! – Waitrose – they delivered .. what more could you want).. they had a special ring by the door on Hollaway road for tieing up your dog, next to a water dish. I was inside by the Check Out and had dropped some coins and the old man who sat on the bench – he said, as he reached down to help me pick up the coins, “Look after the pennies and the pounds will look after you.” It was like a chant – a mantra. His two friends, equally ancient and worn to the bone, nodded from either side of him, their hands in pockets jingling coins. Not quite well shaven, but not quite neglected. They nodded in unison, these three, watching the world flow past. I would have packed them in a bag and taken them home if I could. No doubt their wives would have helped me with the packing.
So even though I have spent days packaging books, with mounting excitement (check the book order page for why and how). Because this is a good book. Incredibly special. Because we did this! Because we did this – all by ourselves. 
Still, we must not forget that it all began with us. You and I. The little people. The Fellowship. That is you. And you are here to watch over our little farmy. So let us return to the farmy.
The Kitchen’s Garden Farm is where this all began. So after a day in the city, and then a day of excitement opening lost boxes of books. I am remembering that it all started with a wee farm and a large and deliciously noisy Fellowship. That is you by the way.
And I do love my Big fat Aunty Sheila’s tail.
Especially when she is Seeing OFF a dog.
And if anyone tells you that pigs don’t eat grass… send them to Our Sheila. She will sort them out.
Poppy is still on the wrong side of the fence. What will happen when I am away in New Zealand. This piggy needs a full time minder. I swear she is a shape shifter.

You are on the wrong side of the fence again Poppy. But we do appreciate the smiles.
And the miles.
I hope you have a lovely day. Stop being careful.
your friend on the farmy
miss c






35 responses to “Mum said …”
Ha, tonight I have two ginger kitties sitting on my laptop case (their choice) next to me! Sadly somebody in the complex dumped them last Thursday – grrr why do people do this. No, no they aren’t staying, well maybe just till they are a little bigger and stronger … erhmm 🙂 Laura
O OH you’re never getting rid of them.. those ginger cats stick around! Next you will be thinking of names..c
Sheila is a fine form of a pig! I love her shape… so porcinely voluptuous 😉 I hear the roar of applause and bravo’s Mexican waving around the world, congratulating and celebrating the Letters to My Sister team efforts. To that I add, WOO HOO 🙂
Miss C. My Mum said both the things mentioned above. She left me when I was 10, although her husk lived until I was 25. But that is not what I wanted to say.
I just saw an amazing idea that maybe could work for your bees.
http://milkwood.net/2013/03/05/the-sun-hive-experiments-in-natural-beekeeping/
If you could bring your bees into the barn over winter? I have very limited knowledge of beekeeping, and my interest is through my passion for medieval lifestyle re-creation. I would love to try skep hives, but I am sure you can imagine the problems associated with that in Wellsford area, however this has made up my mind. I am going to get my own bees. I hope you find it as inspirational as I have. Or at least a bit useful.
“Stop being careful” Words to live by. xo
My goodness! Sheila is sparkling clean. She must have tidied up for her photos.
Your mothers advice was so right. I wish someone had been here to tell me that. The messes can get so amazing, can’t they? but you have to let them lie…Sheila is beyond beautiful in these photos. I am snatching everyone of them and keeping them. Her shape! Her tail! Her curves! She’s like a Greek
goddess, but, well, not.
I could envision those old fellas, nodding in agreement. Your mum was wise. Love the kitty in the box with just a smidgen of sunshine. Yay for the books! Poppy Houdini.
My heart just did a little leap of happiness when you said “Stop being careful.”! 🙂