Set Up To Succeed

When working with young people of all ages – yes that means you too, because after all we are all young in one way or another – it is important to set goals that are achievable. To set our young ones up to succeed. To set tasks for our young people that are clear and winnable, with clear instructions and expectations then, trusting our own training,  set them off to achieve the task by themselves.  Small successes every day are the stepping stones to more small successes every day and this leads to the ability to make good successful choices as time goes by. To create an environment of a job well done.pigs

Most of our lives will be deliciously small. Few of us are destined to be major players, or millionaires, or rich tycoons, or to have massive houses and fast cars or huge mobs of cattle roaming our expansive farms or private boxes at the races. But we can all be trusted and we should all have someone who has confidence in us. And we should all allow our loved ones that trust and confidence too.  Imagine how it would be if you did not feel trusted. DSC_0861

Then we allow this person to grow independently. With our trust, and strong quiet presence young people can be responsible for their mistakes and their successes and feel proud.  We must set them up again and again to succeed and if they know we trust them to do their best, to be the best they can be,  they will approach life with joy and pride and the love of learning that our trust has encouraged. And most of all they will have the confidence to embark upon a good life, and you can trust them with your tractor.

Of course this works for animals too – and birds.  We sometimes have to set them free too and holding our breath trust that they will get it right.




Though sometimes they will make a wrong turn and end up in a pigsty!

pig and cow

Ah well. Never mind.

I hope you have a lovely day.

Love celi



31 Comments on “Set Up To Succeed

  1. Lovely pictures today (well every day really), but love the ‘flight’ pictures! She is very brave to be flying so young bless her. I wish for her a long and happy life flying wherever she wants – pigstys too!

  2. You are such a nice and thoughtful leader, Celi. – Not feeling trusted is a horrible feeling, oh my. Good thoughts you’re sharing with us today – as always… If there would be more loving bosses and teachers think like you…. Sigh. You are such a great teacher.
    I know that it works for animals too. One of my two cats always wanted to go out (the other one feared when being just at the front door) – I lived on the 3rd floor in the city. I was afraid letting him out, there might be accidents, bad people, what ever. But we had to experience four or five times when he fell out of the window that cute little thing. Down from the 3rd floor. I still did not let him out. Untill one day when I thought “when the worst must be, it shall be” and I eventually let him out, still anxious of course. From then on I let him go whenever he wanted: Days, nights, weeks, months – we had each other 14 years. I have learned my lesson: We have to let go. It was such a lovely agreement between us full of trust. He was so true. And it was so great seeing him waiting for me outside, when I came home from work, waving his tail full of joy. Lovely memories…
    Oh my, the little bird learns to fly…… Beautiful.

    • What a wonderful story about you, your cat and allowing for freedom and trust! Thank you!

        • Thank you, dianeandjack and Nanette. – He so loved to be independent. and was the happiest cat ever since then….
          BTW he was half South-African half European – a very lovely and a very special character… Oh, and he was so much loved, too.

  3. Lovely words of wisdom. I remember all too well when my daughter’s room looked like a pigsty. When she complains too loud about her own daughter’s room being a rubbish tip, I laugh, and there’s no need to remind her about the old days. She says, “Yes, I guess I’m getting a dose of my own medicine!”

  4. Oh, Celi…another great one. Funny how themes interweave and overlap. I was at the bank yesterday and got into a long, lovely conversation with the investment man about the concept of stewardship. About how it applies to so many things. Least of all money. Most of own children. How we are just passing through life, not really owning anything, but it is our duty to care for things and to prop them up while we are here on Earth. Protecting, helping to grow, sustaining…so that they can then be stewards in their time. And here you are today with this! I love it when messages come at you from various unexpected places…then you know you have to listen.

    • Yes that is Lady Astor, she followed poppy home and was quite confused at the outcome so then she stood and mooed sadly until I led her back to her pasture again.. c

      • I was looking at that photo and thinking it was an awfully small space for those big animals, but thought you must’ve had a plan 🙂 She does look confused.

  5. I agree with you, Celi. My three words are Guidence Encouragement and Trust. My golden rule at work years ago and when bringing up my Elly, was never expect others to do anything that I was not prepared to tackle. I showed how to do a task, watched and encouraged when they tried and finally left them to get on with it. There was a proviso:- ‘Call me if you are having any difficulty’.

    Love the busy wings shot, blink and she will fly with ease.

  6. Wonderful lesson, thank you, Celi! I think we all have landed in pigstyes at one point or another — well, at least I know I have. I pretty much raised my children that way and was lucky they were up to the challenges. As Grannymar suggests, I think it’s important, too, to let them know you’ll catch ’em if they fall.
    Hope you have a lovely day too! ~ Mame 🙂

  7. Celi, your words are also a gentle reminder to me personally especially about setting realistic goals and heaven knows that more than once when I have taken flight I have ended in the pig sty. Thanks for reminding me to treat myself a little more gently as well as those around me.

  8. This is embarrassing –are Geraldine and Violet both peahens? I thought Geraldine was a guinea fowl.

  9. This was a lovely visit. Lady Astor does look a bit confused. I’m guessing you have the most wonderful adult children. Those are lessons I wish every parent knew. That includes me. I learned a little late.

  10. Sometimes I have met my best lifelong friends in the pigsty! Ha ha!! Have a grand weekend, wherever you happen to land! 🙂

  11. This speaks to me in a heart wrenching way. I don’t think my parents ever trusted me, and to this day I get irrationally angry when blamed for something I didn’t do. So I found my own pig sty and worked from there.

  12. The prodigal peahen? LOL Fun to watch her fly. There’s a lot to be said of someone who can be trusted with your tractor.

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