The animosity. The pettiness. The tiny-mind mean-spiritedness. The shyness. The dark self talk. The busyness of business. Give it a rest. All that thinking. Stop it. Heads Up. Reach out to your people. Take a deep breath and jump into a conversation.
Two people I knew not too well have died. We liked each other. We knew each others names and would have called them out on the street with a great wave through the traffic and noise. Two people I knew a little bit for a long time but wanted to know better and thought I had time, died in the last week. And BOTH times – BOTH TIMES – I had put off getting in touch or sending a message because I thought they might be busy. And maybe I would be a bother. Or maybe what I had to say was not important. Or maybe. Maybe. Maybe.
I had been nudged by the universe of spirits and dreams to pop in and I had not. Because I was unsure or distracted. I thought too much of how I would be received, whether or why and not enough of how. Almost paralysis by analysis but not even that. Just losing the moment maybe?
I had allowed myself to be embroiled and side- lined in unrelated unsolvable bullshit and lost sight of my good solid ordinary friends from the people world. Who probably would have appreciated the smile. Who had popped up from my subconscious to wave but I did not wave back. I did not make the effort.
Trust yourself.
If you dream of someone – reach out. If you feel a nudge – reach out. Right now. If you have a feeling – reach out. There is no excuse in this world of multiple pathways not to communicate. Pop in for no reason. It’s ok.
This has happened to us all. All of us.
It will happen again I am sure.
Do not write sorry for your loss. This IS my loss but not how that phrase depicts it. Instead tell me about the person you are going to reach out to later today. Who has been on your mind. Who you have hesitated over. I think there is a reason a person crosses our mind. Walks in and out of our dreams. Their warm names giving us pause.
We are all friends here. The Fellowship. The Fellowship of The Farmy. We have been chatting together and supporting each other in the Lounge of Comments since 2011. That level of care is not common and is important. I am so grateful for you.
The sun is out.
I am going to work in the chook-house for a while today. Chickens are a microcosm of human behaviour. They squabble and chase each other and roost fatly and sweetly together at the end of the day. They remind me to settle down, gather my flock and eat, drink and watch. And fight for my corner. Look after my people. Share. Then sleep.
More on that this evening at TKG Take Ten.
Celi
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28 responses to “Give it a Rest. Reach Out.”
Oh my how this resonated with me. I lost a dear dear friend. We had been through marriages, divorces, children (mine as she couldn’t have any) sickness, depression and loss. Long periods of time would pass and we wouldn’t see each other, but when we did it was as if no time had passed. We just picked up where we left off. Then just before Christmas I got the message from my son that she had passed away. She had cancer and I didn’t even know. I hadn’t called her the last time I was in town. I was busy and thought I’d call her next time. There will be no next time. A hard lesson.