From A Far

My daughter who lives in Melbourne, Australia and her boyfriend Jack have been here for a very fast visit on their way to Mexico to climb some cliff faces.

So what better work to do than help your Mum by replacing a couple of windows  in a barn, that came down in a storm not long ago, and the barn face looks blind without them. An excellent job for strong climbers. far7

The windows are way up high in the North side of the West barn – only a tiny challenge for these young people.  These two climb together often and are totally equal on a wall – instructing and guiding each others feet with verbal commands in gentle voices. Even for a short climb like up a barn wall they prepare, plan and use their hands and feet efficiently.  I love watching them work together. far6

far4And they were happy that they could start and finish a job that I desperately needed help with.

They are leaving in the early hours of the morning tomorrow so we are going up  to the Big City this afternoon to get a head start on that journey. far2 far1 far

The sweetest thing for them was that yesterday my new layers came. Twenty-five white Leghorns. Three days old. The suppliers sent me a batch quick quick so we could slide them in before it got cold again. So they took the job of dipping each little beak into the water and placing them in the box under their heating tables. far8

And this morning is blowing and cold and wintry.

Here is the weather:

Saturday 02/25 40% / < 1 inWindy with snow showers this morning. Partly cloudy later. High 33F/0C. Winds WNW at 20 to 30 mph. Chance of snow 40%.

Saturday Night 02/25 0% / 0 inPartly cloudy. Low 23F/-5. Winds WSW at 5 to 10 mph.

So today will be cold. Never mind. The chicks are all safely in their box and sleeping under their heated table and I have family sleeping in a warm room in my house.  I must take the joy and run with it and try not to think of tomorrow when they will be gone again and travelling far away.

Being an immigrant to a country means that we miss our families unless we are lucky enough to be able to bring our families out to live with us.  I think sometimes people forget that immigrants are often just sad, and always feeling around at the hole in their bellies left by absent loved ones.  (I actually hate that term “loved ones” but I cannot think of a better word this morning).

And today we have a full day and one more all night together. Which will be wonderful! So off I go!

Have a lovely day.

Love celi

53 Comments on “From A Far

  1. It looks like you had the right people for the job. We had a storm here on Thursday that blew my terracotta window boxes onto my balcony and smashed them. The herbs seem OK, especially the flowering rosemary – I must go out and get some new containers today 🙂

  2. Enjoy your precious family time 🙂 Amazing that you had climbing practice organised right at home too. Laura

  3. So cool to see the pics of the two of them climbing and working together! And a bit sad that they are off so soon. It is hard to be away from loved ones, and you are right, there is always an empty place. xoxoxo

  4. Cold and clear here in Easter IA at 16˚F. On Wednesday it was 77˚F.

    Our barn on the farm when I was a kid was air conditioned. It had so many holes and cracks, the winds just blew through. Good thing it had a metal roof to keep most of the hay dry.

  5. Oh, what a lovely break for you! Yes, I’m not fond of the term ‘loved ones’ either; it seems to suggest someone has passed on to the next world… lol How about ‘missing family’? What a great project for them to accomplish, something so specialized to their particular skills that otherwise wouldn’t have gotten done.
    Well, much cooler for you than here. We will get up to 6c (about 44f) today and continuing really mild till Thursday when it dips back down to a high of freezing again…. in Toronto Canada. We had a record breaking warm day for February this past week, not surprisingly given the temps we’ve had. Hope you have a great day with your missing family, who are temporarily not missing… lol ~ Mame 🙂

  6. The barns new windows look good, a job well done. I hope you have a lovely day today with your daughter and her partner.

  7. Nice job ..well done…and chicks all safely away… The weather here today has been very cold wind. It started to rain so I postponed my walk just in case the heavens opened when I was out in the wilds….However tomorrow is supposed to be fine so I shall take today as being a bonus rest.

    Oh how true it is that we miss our families when we are living in another country…how I wish I could see my daughters as often as I used to …and if we went back I could…but I do not want the uk way of life..so we stay here….lots of love

     

    Sent: Saturday, February 25, 2017 at 3:02 PM

  8. I love that everyone says where they’re living so we have a sense of their weather.

    I’m amazed your daughter and boy friend were so aptly skilled to help you with such a specific problem. How did you get the glass in time for their visit and who put the glass into the frames? Another special talent! Lots of preparation .

  9. I’m so glad you are having some time with your daughter. I am sure sons are just as wonderful, but my only child is a daughter, and I so treasure our relationship.

  10. I often think of people who came here – in the Old Days, before air flight, and left nothing they’d never see their parents or their families again. I honestly don’t know how they bore it. On another note – what a fabulous old barn!! And how great is it that you had actual ‘climber’s to put those two windows back in for you. I’m sure you miss your daughter and her husband/boyfriend sooo much. I think I’ve told you how I used to cry when my son and his family drove away from my house… and that would make my granddaughter cry, so I had to stop doing that. And they only live outside of Philly! AND – I can NOT wait to see photos of those little chicks!! Leghorns are such gorgeous chickens. Have a great day – in spite of your daughter leaving – and the cold returning. ; o )

  11. How wonderful to have even a short visit, and have the window replacement bonus. Such a beautiful barn! Great pictures today. Can’t wait to see the chicks!

  12. I’m so glad your children are able to spend time with you. Visits with family is always the best. We would stay up for hours at night talking and telling stories on one another and laughing. And, oh the food!!! Then I remember seeing my parents standing in the neighborhood street waving their last goodbyes as we pulled away from the curb back to our lives. I’m sure we will do the same when it’s our turn to wave. “loved ones”- cherished, endearing, beloved, dear to the heart, greatly loved.
    7 degrees on my front porch this morning in Montana. But clear! I can see blue skies! Yippee!

  13. Brrrr … I think it feels worse because we’ve been spoilt this past week. I hope this doesn’t affect your fruit trees. Some of my roses have started to bud and I’ll be keeping an anxious eye on them, hoping this cold snap does no harm. Have a wonderful time with your daughter. Bet you’ll never look at that side of the barn in the same way again. 🙂

  14. Sometimes projects like those windows come to mean a lot more to a person than what it appears. It’s the simple gifts of offering of oneself that are cherished the most. Chicks are fun. They’re a bit of work and worry, but it’s a wonderful thing to watch them develop and grow over the next weeks. Good luck with them! The winter always makes these endeavors a challenge.

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  16. What a treat. Handsome and handy! I always enjoy the visits with my adult children and extra bonus when they can help me out with a job. Safe travels and enjoy your family time with loved, cherished, appreciated ones.

  17. Hee! You pulled at my heartstrings another way, Ceci! Haven’t heard the expression “quick quick” save once since we moved back from Africa! When the East Indian owner of a motel where I was staying in Central California said that, my jaw nearly dropped to the floor in delight!
    And your chicks, need to see pix! Why do you dip their little beaks in water? Is this a one time deal, or is it repeated? Still learning. Glad you got to see your family! Love it when mine come up – grandson loves to communicate with HIS ‘shikuns’ – chases ’em all over the yard at a baby’s pace! He’s also an honorary employee at an outdoor restaurant in Hawaii where they go – hat, shirt and badge-certified as the Official Pigeon Chaser.”

  18. What a nice barn now – with the old/new eyes in…
    Enjoy the last hours with your special guests, Celi! Loneliness & belongings will come back sooner or later. – I prefer the term “beloved” for my relatives and people I love. Is it maybe ancient or from a religious context? I lost my mother last week, we had to bury her on tuesday. I hope she is glad where she is now – together with her husband and son (my brother and my father). Hope they are reunited.

    • Oh my dear. How hard it is to lose a mother, mine has been gone 15 years next month. I hope you are able to find peace for yourself. My personal beliefs tell me that she is full of joy where she is now. Perhaps that may of some comfort to you. I will add you to my prayer list.
      Chris S in Canada

    • Truly sorry Irmi! Yes I like ‘beloved’ also . . . . in spite of having crossed the river they all will live in your heart for evermore. My darling Dad left some 40 years ago: we still quietly talk every day . . .

    • My deepest sympathies, Irmi. I know what it is to have both parents gone. It changes your life forever. Be especially kind to yourself now. Blessings.

    • Truly sorry, Irmi, to learn of the loss of your dear Mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones.

      • And wonderful that you can tell us so calmly. Beloved is a beautiful word. And losing your beloved mother is such a blow – I am so sorry – we all love you here. c

  19. Climbing–a sport with a practical “app.” I can see its deeper appeal also, though as a kid it was simply an urge. And we had plenty of trees nearby. But to be able to work high up and solve problems there, that must be satisfying. Especially with family. I suspect maybe there’s a spiritual element too. To work your way up towards the light, relying on each other’s quiet presence and guidance–pretty special! Hope you had plenty of good “down time” with your daughter. It is hard to be far from children.

    • Jack felt the same too – he said he had great satisfaction using his hands for physical work – he said it was great to “put these great mitts to work” holding up his hands – he works as a programmer for apps for cars – so he was more than happy to do some “real work”.. c

  20. I thought it odd they had to go to Mexico just to climb things; don’t they have enough in Austraiia?
    How thoughtful though for them to help around the house, as it were.
    Perhaps you should not let them go but create some cliffs to climb right there.

  21. And don’t forget the mothers of the immigrants who are left behind, that’s a big hole too, to have your daughter go off and live in another land. I remember reading someone’s blog ages ago who was complaining that her son and his wife had moved down the coast, for work, and she’d have to drive an hour to go see her grandson! Pffft! Enjoy the flying visit and the trip to the big city with them, clever young ‘uns.

  22. Even families living here in the U.S. don’t always see each other often. For the majority of my adult life, I either lived away from family or family has lived away from me. It’s hard to imagine that there was a time in history when families not only lived in the same area, they lived in the some neighborhood or same house.

    It’s wonderful that you have been able to spend a few days with your daughter and she with you.

  23. Hey Celi ~ great that you could enjoy a bit of time with your daughter!! And they could fix your windows in a few minutes!! Great picture of them staring out the window!! Are they stopping to visit again on their return trip? get some more work lined up!!! I often think of people who have family living in other areas of the world ~ I can very well imagine what the emptiness must be ~ makes my heart hurt for them. And when you have to say goodbye at the end of a visit ~ oh ~ that’s always hard. Glad you’re enjoying one more nite with them.

  24. You’re so right about emigrants. The umbilical that attaches us to all the people important to us is wrenched away, leaving a sore spot that never truly heals. And the more people you leave behind, the more sore spots you have; I wish sometimes I didn’t have a big family, as I wouldn’t have to miss so many people… That tiny glimpse of your daughter tells me she looks like you, lovely!

  25. Lovely that your daughter & her boyfriend leave a tangible memory mark of their visit. It’s nice for family to be able to feel they have a presence & contributions to make. Those two have exceptional talents ♡

  26. What a lovely gift that will never wear out. and having family visit you from far away is a priceless gift! Cheers!

  27. Am laughing having made my ‘climbing comment’ quite innocently ere Sophie + ‘her man’ arrived! Remember you and ‘them’ in the Grampians a year back. I am so sorry this has been such a short visit tho’ . . . a few more days would have been nice ! BUT, am very glad Sophie’s handsome fella did not mind his photos being included in the farmy history . . . nice to see him making use of his balance and climbing skills to have one more thing fixed 🙂 ! Hope the two have a fab time getting to know Mexico: should they go anywhere near San Miguel de Allende [yep in the mountains N of MC] give lovely Vicki Challancin a call!!!

  28. J > This post reminds me of when D and I would visit her parents. I’d come in through the house door, into the kitchen, and D’s mum Betty would say “Ah, Jonathan, glad you’re here, can you reach me down that pan from the top shelf?”!! … Cliches and fixed expressions obscure meaning and blunt understanding. I was taught never to use a generic when a specific is available and appropriate. If you mean family, say family. Or friends and family. If you mean son, can you use his name? If you mean children, would it be too long-winded to say son and daughter. As a civil engineer I find it difficult to say ‘concrete’ when what is actually required is in-situ 30N concrete 100 thick with 25mm coarse aggregate size and 100mm slump, with plascticizer and retardant. However, I do accept that sometimes just ‘concrete’ is quite ‘concrete’ enough!

    • Here they say cement – is that the same stuff I wonder. As writers we are always looking for another word to say the same thing as repetition is so boring in a paragraph. But you are right – call a spade a spade.. c

  29. Your post is serious and beautiful and true, but I am laughing over your “loved ones” comment. I hate that phrase too. What are we to do? Say “peeps”? Lacks seriousness. Oh well.

  30. I’m so glad you had this time with your daughter and her family. I understand the missing of “loved ones.” Although I am not an immigrant, I have a son who lives half a country away (in Boston). My heart aches sometimes for missing him; I see him once or twice a year.

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