All us expats live with two homes. Lucky us. Unlucky us.
We can meet and eat and laugh and drink with some of the most important people in our entire lives at the great New Zealand barbie, set in an urban vegetable garden with wine and laughter and still worry about the ones we love and have left in the frozen gardens on the other side of the world.
We eat the family scalloped potatoes, grill sausages and steak and lamb. We can eat the gluten free salads, and vegan dishes and vegetarian bakes and omnivorious feeds, eating all from the same table like we have for years but still wonder how the cows are at home, and is Tima warm, and is Boo OK at Nannys and are the kittens doing well and wonder why we have not heard Queenie’s results.
Caramalising onions on one side of the world while someone else feeds my pigs on the other.
The glory of all your family gathering like a gentle storm.
As the water freezes at home.
We are all a collection of divided and dividing cells. Wanting to be here but still there. Wishing and missing. Succeeding and failing. Wanting to both hide from the new people and greet them as wonderful additions to our ever-burgeoning families.
Big breath miss c., says Sheila our Big Fat Pig, from all the way over there.
Good morning.
I hope you all have a lovely day!
Your friend in travel,
celi
The Kitchen's Garden 
59 responses to “The Great New Zealand Barbeque”
Home sickness can be a wicked thing. You must be loving all the fresh summer fruit and veg. John and Jake have the Farmy in hand. Laura
The food is wonderful, especially the fruit.. and I have begun t make the sauces for the cooking I will be doing on the weekend so the house is scented with roasting tomato and garlic.. c
I can fully understand your divided feelings. But it looks as though you’re having a jolly good time, anyway.
Love,
ViV x
Morning Viv. Yes,we do have the best time, with lots of relaxing time to catch your breath as well, the wedding weekend is coming right up then it will get even more jolly!.. c
‘Wanting to be here, but still there’ Yes, you have perfectly described the agony and the ecstasy of being an ‘expat’. No matter which place we find ourself, we are thinking of the other place somewhere in the back of our minds. And yet we know we have chosen the right life. xx
Yes, you are right, and thank goodness we have all chosen the right lives to live. How lucky we are to have that choice. c
I do not yearn for the dark, wet northern skies, but I miss family and old friends, the easy company of people who have known me forever. I sat at the foot of my table of 10 this Christmas and wished that some of the faces were from my tribe… And while you are having clean bright sunshine and family feasts in the garden, we are, AT LAST, having rain, sheets and sheets of the stuff, blowing horizontally in 87kmph gusts, house-shaking thunder and scary bright pink lightning. Hurray!
yay! that naked rain dance you were doing finally worked, Kate
Rats, you weren’t meant to see me!
Thrilled that you are getting proper rain, filling that thirsty soil.. most excellent.. c
Morning, Miss C, hope the weather’s being kind to you over there. A little damage from the 87kmph winds last night, nothing much, and the garden is looking brilliantly green!
You sent pictures!!
Pictures!
Listen to Sheila and enjoy every second of the warmth and the people. Soon enough you’ll be missing them while enjoying your “other” life.
You are right Bev, bitter sweet but Plenty of sweetness.. c
Ah, yes, you’ve hit it right on the head, or rather, the heart. After 20 years of living abroad in Hungary, Switzerland and France and missing my family here in the US, I’ve returned ‘home’ but now I often long to be back among the friends and acquired family I left behind in Europe.
No easy solution, for certain.
Mary
Morning Mary, America is VERY different from Europe.. aren’t we lucky that technology allows us such instant access to those we miss..how long have you been back in the States?.. c
Yes, we know this feeling. It breaks us two … but we do mend. Family does that.
Love. Much love. xx
Yes, and soon you will be visiting your people again? Thank goodness for planes!.. c
Indeed, and yes, in March. 🙂
Yep you got that right my friend! if only they would hurry up and invent the ‘beam me up Scotty’ gadget from Star Trek – after all they have managed some of the other gadgets (cell phone etc.) Take a deep breath and enjoy the moment and where you are in the present – too soon the present will be history!
Wise words Lynda.. have a lovely day!.. c
I’m only a half-expat nomad, but I SO understand the divide you’re feeling. On my more resilient days I just think of it as topping up on love in one home before moving into the next phase of the adventure where more love–different love–awaits! (Or sometimes I jusr cry in the bath or in my Champagne!) Life is complicated, wonderful… And I’m a big believer in the gratitude that contrast re-instills. X
Well said Whitney.. these contrasts do underline gratitude.. and yes .. i much prefer to cry into champagne!.. c
It is nice to see that lovely garden and houses perched on the hillside. It is still cold and snowy on this side of the world. Enjoy the warmth and food.
Awe! Love the green photos! Do tell us of the warmth and sunshine!
Wellington is more known for its wind, and the sunshine is bright and joyful.. when i take you down country i think we will get that solid summer heat.. like you i long for it! c
That made me cry! I can feel that you are missing the Farmy and we also need to see and to know that all is ok. I am sure it is because you have left it in capable hands but even so those hands are not YOUR hands and that is the difference.
Another big breath Miss C!
Celi, your gift of words always amazes me. We expats are connected to a tether that pulls us here and there. Are you up for a third book about expats? In the meantime have fun with your family and enjoy the days you have with them. Oh how I wish the “beam me up Scotty “was real. Hugs
Are you home and unpacked with your Mums treasure placed carefully, what a sad trip you had. And what an interesting thought about an expats book.. SO many stories there!.. c
Yes, I home and unpacked with very few of my mom’s treasures . Have fun cooking.
You have told us many a time to live in the moment dear. To look at our surroundings and take in what is there in that moment. I now give you the same advice. John and your helper (forgive me I can’t remember his name) care for your animals and they are doing their best to live up to your standards of care. Say a quick prayer for them and insert yourself back into the fold of your family because your time is fleeting with them.
Hugs and please enjoy the light~ The light looks brighter there!
JAKE!!! (had to look at the prior post)
yes! well done.. morning Pat.. c
I can imagine it’s a bit overwhelming to leave the farmy and all of its peace and then re-acclimate yourself back into an entirely different world. Drink a few more glasses of wine, everything is fine at the farmy! A little time away will only have them loving you even more. xoxo
ah yes, at the very least the local wine is great!