You know how people say _(and I hear this all the time) Oh! (whoosh of breath) “I don’t care what people think! I just am what I am – etc and etc – take it or leave it, rinse and repeat.. blah, blah, blah”. I tilt my head and look carefully when I hear this. Bravado is so transparent.
But I think we ALL care what our loved ones think, I do,I will be honest – I care what you think and this is a good thing, I say to my children – if you cannot sit down and tell me what you have done then think about it again. You need to care what I think. You need to care enough about yourself to care what I think. Because I care about you.
Oh, I don’t mean the Fashion Police and the PC People and the Haters and Mean Spirited Do Gooders. That is shallow stuff. Who cares what THEY think. I mean us. US. The good people in your life. The real ones. Now, this does not mean that I write so you can approve of my writing or agree with what I think. No, no, not that.
I mean, that if you love someone or respect someone or appreciate someone, it is OK to care about what they think and to improve and raise your game – and extend yourself so you can think better of yourself and when they smile and nod – it is Ok to Smile BIG and nod back BIG and love that you care what they think.
I do care what you think. Because you are good. I care what good people think.
Does that make sense?
I hope you have a lovely day. This is my mantra, my wish and my promise. That we all have lovely moments in our days. And that we care.
Love your friend on the farm. Alphonsus sends his love – (Federico just told me his grandfather’s name was Alphonsus.. wheels within wheels).
Love, love,
celi
The Kitchen's Garden 
134 responses to “I care what you think”
Interesting topic. Oddly, most folks only care about what acquaintances and strangers think, but not family. I guess it is often because we know they are stuck with us and vise versa?
I love this post! Hits home these days. I appreciate your wise words. Wish I could wallow in some mud!!!
“Lovely moments” and “that we care.” Yes!
This is beautiful. I think you are a very generous soul, given all you share with us, known to you or strangers. Thank you.
Hear, hear. Clearly Poppy cares (and knows) what we think of her glorious wallowing.
There have been times when I cared TOO much about what other people think, but that has leveled out with age. I’ve come to embrace that living with care and caring is an important part of who I am. Wise words about that today, miss c. Thank you.
I feel so bad for Kate who is suffering so. I wish I knew something–anything about homeopathy, but I don’t.
I love the contrast between the wallowing pig and the next shot of pristine Godot. Very fun. Gore Vidal said it doesn’t matter what others think of you. What does matter is what you think of them! Hmmm.
I read a quote once that said – instead of looking for the right person BE that person.. kind of off the subject a little.. have I said this before? c
Perfect sense.
I feel like I’ve entered Act 2 Scene 3, and missed all of Scene 2. There’s something about this post that caused me to stop and wonder if you’re okay. Are you?
I think we are all bits and piece of perfectly OKay and poised mid sob. But yes – I am leaning towards perfectly OK.. c
That answer is so open-ended that a universe could fall through it. (big hug) Try to aim for that “perfectly okay” without becoming overwhelmed with the journey, c. I shall keep you secure in my thoughts until then.
I too wondered about that. Going with the flow, I enter into Celie’s concerns as though they are my own.
My dear Celi, This post is relavatory of your large, large heart. Two things have come to mind: first of all, I’m now going to have to read all the comments because I’m certain that your gang is as heartfelt as you are. Second is that I am sharing with you what is dearest to my heart, the Baha’i Faith. I’ve been a Baha’i for 50 years now and I have to tell you that I was a “hard sell”.
Much love,Gayle in sunny Sacramento, California
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Thank you Gayle. I am glad you have found a way and a place to be. That is just lovely. love c .ps often your comments come with screeds of advertising – I delete these for you as i am sure you don’t mean to leave these in the lounge of comments. much love..
caring enough about your loved ones and showing it by making improvements in your life is a splendid goal. also I adore your pig photos…..todays first image would actually be a lovely painting. Seriously. Have a lovely day with Alphonsus and his Grandson!
I my goodness, i had not put that together.. now that is really an immense thought.. c
Love the Gore Vidal quote! Ha
But bieng sweet & kind is really all that matters, then you know you’ve done your job as a human.
Kate…try some super beet juice, turmeric, arnica (both in pills & ointment) I think arnica is my favorite. my phone screws up…. (Internet) and sometimes I’m unable to read some of the comments so I’m kind of guessing that you have arthritis? I don’t know if anyone has mentioned Accupuncture but I tell you what it works! And don’t be afraid of it, it can help with your pain and transitioning to homeopathic remedies, without horrible side effects. Good luck with this 🙂
Robin🐥
Thank you, Robin. Yes, it’s arthritis, and I’m already a huge arnica fan, and everyone is saying turmeric, so I guess planting some in the garden will be the next step, since I can grow it so easily here. I’ve not had a great deal of success with acupuncture in the past when I tried it for other issues, but perhaps I should give it a second chance…
Kate, I’m a bit late to comment.
But could you please look into “bone broth” if you are not yet doing it.It is powerful for the regeneration process of joints and has lots of amino acids that people with autoimmune conditions are usually lacking.You might want to check drkayladaniel.com or draxe.com.Not pain reducing but maybe helping not getting worse.Hope something will help you soon.love.Isabel
Another great suggestion to Google. Thank you so much. I like the idea of treating the root cause rather than the symptoms, as well. Appreciate it!
Listen to the quiet. Hear the double click of a woman from CA clicking on to this site. Be still so you can hear her inner cry when she sees Sheila, beloved pet of more than Celi, and her cry inside like Marlon Brando cried, “Stella,” except she is crying, “S h e I l a,” in an almost moan of joy tone. This site lowers my blood pressure; viritual living ain’t so bad after all; best to all.
Listening.. c
I agree. Sometimes strangers are more help than family.
OH! That LOVELY, LOVELY BIRD! I too care what you think, but I only care about those I love! Now that I’m old I have come to realize I don’t care what those shallow people care…I have no time left in my life to care what they think. Nice post, Miss C.
Linda
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